“Can I…? ” or “Is it okay to …?” Showers bring up some questions that wedding planners of any age may not know how to answer. Never fear, help is here (finally).
Myth: All female guests invited to the wedding should attend the shower.
Fact: All showers guests should be invited to the wedding, but not everyone invited to the wedding needs a shower invite. Invite bridesmaids, relatives, the bride-to-be and her fiancee’s close girlfriends, and her mother and future mother-in-law’s friends. If the bride doesn’t know some of her fiancee’s dates, you aren’t obligated to invite them to the shower. Consult the bride-to-be if you’re unsure.
Myth: Guests attending the shower should pay for their meal.
Fact: The hosts of the shower, whether it be the maid of honor, bridesmaids or the bride’s mother, should pay for the meal.
Myth: Even if the bride-to-be doesn’t want a shower, hold one anyway.
Fact: Listen to the bride — if she doesn’t want one, don’t have it. If you want to “shower” her with attention, suggest dinner, spa massages or an outdoor activity like a hike or picnic.
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